Make lifetime management more explicit. We're only using this for
CXXPseudoDestructorExprs for now but we need this to handle
std::construct_at/placement-new after destructor calls later anyway.
Note that PointerUnion::{is,get,dyn_cast} have been soft deprecated in
PointerUnion.h:
// FIXME: Replace the uses of is(), get() and dyn_cast() with
// isa<T>, cast<T> and the llvm::dyn_cast<T>
